Sunday, January 29, 2017

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Why cycling makes us happy: the positive psychology of being on the bike
by Justin Coulson

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Cycling is a beautiful sport. We hear it all the time. We experience it when we ride and race. For the ever-increasing number of us that have caught the cycling bug, we know how happy cycling makes us.

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But what is it that makes us love cycling so much? Why are we so compulsively drawn to it? Why does cycling make us happy in a way that perhaps tennis, or swimming, or footy can’t?

The science of positive psychology investigates what makes life most worth living. Cycling seems to possess an array of attributes that boost happiness in ways that few other sports can claim. While many other sports may possess a small handful of these attributes, it seems that cycling may be one of very few that has them all.

Here are my 15 reasons cycling makes us happy based on the science of positive psychology:

PHYSICAL HEALTH

Aerobic exercise is proven to be one of the greatest predictors of our physical health.  Our body simply works better when we are physically fit. This is a widely accepted and understood principle, so I won’t go into any more detail on this one in this article.

MENTAL HEALTH

Physically fit and healthy people are generally happier than their unfit, unhealthy counterparts. Depression, anxiety, and stress are generally lower in physically healthy people. Cycling boosts mental health.

CYCLING IS SOCIAL

As a surfer, I would sit in the ocean and  selfishly savour the serenity and the solo surf. Now and then I would glimpse another surfer walking along the beach towards me and I would curse them, hoping they would select another spot. Cycling is different. While solo rides are great, our best times on the bike often involve group rides with friends. Plus cycling is great for networking in ways that few other sports are.

COMPETENCE

Cycling is something that just about anyone can do. It is immensely accessible.

SAVOURING

Savouring is what we do when we mentally enlarge or magnify a pleasant experience. Savouring is a powerful wellbeing booster. Cycling is a sport that gives us enormous opportunity to “breathe it in”.

Whether it is the quiet appreciation of a panoramic view (think Gruber images, or your local hilltop or headland), the exhilaration of a fast descent, or the post-ride coffee and chit-chat as we relive the best bits of the bunch ride with mates, there is plenty to savour during (and after) most rides.

GRATITUDE

Gratitude and savouring often go hand in hand. It’s hard to savour without feeling grateful. Gratitude also makes us happy. Sometimes the things we feel on a bike can be sublime.



Cycling offers those precious quiet moments that fill us with awe and gratitude. While it might be on top of a world-famous peak, it can happen just as easily on a quiet suburban street as the sun rises, the day begins, and we feel that sense of awe, appreciation, or gratitude. It’s as though everything is right with the world – even when it’s not. And for that moment while we are on two wheels, we feel happy.

GOALS

I’ve written previously on CyclingTips about the different kinds of goals we can pursue when we ride. It seems that while we exercise and seek improvement and mastery, we feel better about life. Our wellbeing increases. The pursuit of our goals makes us happy.

SENSATION-SEEKING AND RISK

One of the exciting attributes of many sports is the sensation-seeking opportunities they afford. Research shows that physical activity is viewed as a way to achieve our need to be excited, lively and adventurous. Risk and opportunities for a ‘thrill’ can be part of every ride – and the buzz of a fast descent, the rush of a bunch sprint, or the challenge of an off-road track or rock-garden can give us a grin that lasts for days.

ACCOMPLISHMENT

Some scholars argue that accomplishment is one of the key contributors to our sense of wellbeing. Because of its accessibility, cycling is a never-ending source of accomplishment opportunities. Whether it’s a strava KOM or PR, a long-distance ride, an Everest experience, or reaching a personal goal, our cycling accomplishments are rewarding.

FLOW/ENGAGEMENT

Some people have described flow as the secret to happiness. It occurs when we are so engaged in something that we lose all track of time. We don’t notice anything at all because we are so immersed in a task that is at once optimally challenging and absorbing. Some of our most immersive, flow experiences occur on the bike.

OPTIMISM

People who are optimistic believe good things are coming, and that the future looks bright. Optimists are also much happier than those who are fearful about the future. Because cyclists are goal-oriented, grateful, and engaged in their sport, we are always looking forward to our next ride (often to the detriment of other priorities!), and our optimism feels good.

STRENGTHS

We feel good when we use our strengths. Strengths are things that we do well, feel authentic to us, and energise us. If we love cycling, we can usually identify our cycling strengths, and not much feels better than tearing our mates’ legs off while we take advantage of our strengths!

RESTORATION

True recreation is restorative. It helps us to re-create ourselves. While cycling can leave us exhausted, it is also restorative.We sleep better (which is crucial for wellbeing), and feel physically and mentally better for having had our ride.

MEANING

One of the most important things cycling can facilitate is meaningful contribution to something larger than you or I. Events including Round the Bay, Smiling for Smiddy, the Tour de Cure, the Multiple Sclerosis Sydney to Gong, even the Pollie Pedal, and dozens of other rides provide opportunities to give back by doing something we love.

At an institutional level, we see the meaning and purpose riders feel when they ride for Team Rwanda or MTN-Qhubeka or when they ride for diabetes awareness.

Having a larger purpose in our lives provides meaning, and ultimately, greater happiness.

POSITIVE EMOTIONS

If we have a healthy orientation to cycling we feel a broad range of positive emotions when we ride. Joy, contentment, absorbed, satisfied, accomplished, alert, calm and peaceful, confident, powerful, excited – happy. It just feels great to be on the bike!

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Ultimately, for all of these reasons and more, we feel good when we ride. This is the positive psychology of cycling. It is addictive, it feels great, and when we get the balance right it builds our social, physiological, psychological and even our cognitive resources.

What have we missed? Is there something else about cycling that makes you feel great?




Friday, January 13, 2017

Sunday, January 8, 2017

flooded area 2016

昨天傍晚时分,爸爸和我一起骑自行车到我家后面的住宅区。那里发生水灾。
天上下着微微的毛毛雨, 路上的水位已经升到我的膝盖位置。住宅区里,好像沉下汪洋大海中。
爸爸和我还是用力踩着自行车,奔向汪洋洋一片的水灾区,轮胎撞上路上的水,向左右边喷射,我的心情好兴奋。
过了不久, 我遇到了一群马来小孩,他们叫我一起在马路上的积水踢足球。虽然我全身都湿了,变了落汤鸡,但是我和他们打出一片,玩的特别高兴。
在回家的路上, 看见了灾民,忙着清理家里的黄泥和杂物, 我为他们感到悲伤。希望灾民都平安度过这难关。



















Wednesday, January 4, 2017

7 skills for young people


孩子18岁之前,父母都是竭尽全力为孩子提供条件,帮孩子朝着名校努力,但却常常忘了教给他们作为一个成年人必备的基本能力。

以下十八岁孩子需具备的七种能力,无关才艺与学业,却比才艺学业重要百倍。如果你希望孩子以后成为一个自信成熟、游刃有余、有温度、有爱心的成年人,一定看看。


一、必须懂得如何与陌生人交谈

今天的社会,每一个家长出于安全考虑,都在不停地告诫孩子“不要与陌生人说话”。可是十八岁以后,他们都不得不离开家庭和学校的熟悉而舒服安全的环境,独自面对陌生的环境和人。

局促紧张、词不达意、吞吞吐吐、目光游离、手足无措,这些都是常见的“陌生人交际恐惧症”的表现。而一个十八岁的人如果还有这些表现,主要原因就是他没有从孩子过度为一个成年人,不具备应有的成熟。

我们做父母的需要尽早培养孩子以成年人的方式与人交流:主动与人打招呼做自我介绍、有礼貌的肢体语言,包括微笑着直视对方的眼睛、尺度适宜地握手、敢于提问题等等。一个十八岁的人学会成熟大方的交流方式,会让对方在初次见面就很快产生尊重和好感,而不会因为年轻受到轻视。


二、能够管理自己的学业或工作,牢记各种任务的截止时间

很多做家长的每天提醒孩子们该做什么:每天的作业、活动和比赛的日期时间等等。时间表由家长来掌握,孩子们习惯了被动听从父母提醒。当他们离开父母、必须独自面对这些时,往往不知道如何安排时间,先做什么后做什么,于是有人沉湎于游戏网络,到了最后一晚才着急补写作业。

所以我们做家长的不妨放手,让孩子学习承担自己的责任。即使他们因为自己的疏忽忘记完成作业而影响了成绩,家长也要狠下心来一次,让孩子从中得到教训,然后去慢慢引导,教会孩子对自己所做的事情负责。这样孩子才能学会自我时间管理。

三、学会关爱家里的其他人,而不是袖手旁观

社会的压力,风气的影响,现代家庭的父母们往往舍不得让孩子帮助做任何家务事,只是让孩子全力以赴学习。家长们不仅满足孩子一切的物质需要,而且让孩子心安理得地享受“衣来伸手,饭来张口”的生活。这样的孩子常常变得以自我为中心,不知道该怎样尊重、照顾家里和周围的人。

为了不让孩子成为一个自私冷漠、不受欢迎的成年人,家长们要让孩子日常为家里做些哪怕只是刷碗倒垃圾削苹果这样的小事,从而培养孩子关心父母、为他人服务的意识。


四、能够处理人际关系方面的问题

孩子在学校,与同学发生矛盾时,家长出面去理论;孩子感情受挫情绪低落时,家长无微不至地安抚呵护。这些对孩子情感上的“溺爱的做法”让孩子的情商无法长大,无法独自处理各种复杂的人际关系。

所以当孩子在学校遇到一些“难缠”的同学朋友之间的矛盾时,父母不妨克制一下帮助安抚的冲动,冷静观察,看看孩子是不是能够独自承担、独自解决。如果孩子实在解决不了或者产生逆反状况,然后家长们再出谋划策或者寻求老师的帮忙。

五、能够应付生活中的大起大落

尽早培养孩子的抗压能力,因为孩子进入大学以后或走向社会,生活里有太多的变化。有的孩子曾经是高中里的优等生,在大学一次没考到,就接受不了自己的“失败”,心理崩溃,甚至会产生自杀的念头。

所以从小培养孩子的心理抗压能力非常重要,褪去完美主义的念头,拥有一颗平常心,这样孩子才能习惯和度过人生路上的起起伏伏、沟沟坎坎。


六、必须有赚钱的能力和经历,并懂得如何管理金钱

如果一个孩子在十八岁以前从来没有通过自己的劳动赚过钱,从来都是伸手向父母索取,而父母又总是无条件满足孩子的各种物质要求,那么成人后他们很难理解金钱背后凝结的辛苦劳作。

这样的人往往在工作中缺乏踏踏实实做事的责任感。即使成年了依旧理直气壮向父母伸手,在工作中眼高手低的年轻人大概就是这种类型。

让孩子用自己的劳动赚点钱,并让他们自己管理赚来的钱,这会培养他们一种正面的金钱观,真正理解金钱的价值,懂得量入为出。

七、必须能够独自决定,承担风险

如果孩子从小到大所有的决定都是由父母来做的,小到学什么乐器,参加什么课外活动,大到选择哪个大学,学什么专业,就是说孩子一路都在父母指定的、铺好了的路上走着,既不用做决定,也不必承担风险。

可是他们终有一天要独自面对生活里的各种选择,他们必须自己做决定,冒风险,承担有可能失败的后果,他们需要懂得所有的成功都是经由失败而来的道理。

在孩子十八岁之前,做父母的不妨让孩子为自己做一些决定。而一些关乎孩子前途的重大决定,如升学和选专业,家长也不要一言堂,最好让孩子参与其中,和他们一起分析利弊和风险所在,对每个可能的失败做好心理准备。

上面这七条,看似平常,可是细细想想,都能做到并非易事。若我们希望孩子在十八岁时成为一个在生活里自信成熟、游刃有余的成年人,赶快对照检查或尽早培养,给孩子补上欠缺的那些能力吧。